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The Tribe

Today is the third anniversary of a wee website which has allowed me to hitchhike across a few of life’s superhighways and connect with others who have multiple passions like I do.

The site is called Puttylike, and if you’ve been reading for a good while, you’ve heard me mention it a few times.

Puttylike was created to form a community of people who have multiple interests and aren’t afraid to tackle them all. While historically some have scoffed and called this dilletante-ism, it’s such a part of us to explore new and different things that we have claimed it as an asset, forcing a massive rebrand– Multipotentialites, Unite!

I bet there are a lot of people who come to check out Taste Life Twice who may fall into this category. Since we like to experiment with life and reflect on it, after all…

Emilie, the site’s founder, chose the word “Putty-like” to describe us, since we’re easily molded into new shapes and forms. She also uses the more common term of being a “Renaissance person.” She has an e-book that lays out her advice for what to do if you’re one of these types of people who wants to start their own business (of which there are quite a lot). She also has what I have long profited from, and has made me some awesome friends, The Puttytribe.

The Tribe are the people who lead free workshops for other members on their pet topic, discuss best practices of blogging in the forums, organize a meet-up for members with a common interest, and many other things. It’s a magic, respectful place.

The Tribe have been the cause of many different experiences for me:

  • my introduction to dance-walking, via Sarah Goshman
  • my second guest post ever (and first one that went the way it should)
  • my discovery of several awesome blogs, including the Clear-Minded Creative and Change Catalyst
  • the months-long meetup group of bloggers that kept each other accountable and gave advice about different stages of blogging, coding, marketing, and general business– all pretty scary to start on
  • my first tech coach who helped me through the many baby steps of Taste Life Twice’s early days

And I’m sure a whole lot of other amazing opportunities happened that would never have done so if I hadn’t joined Puttylike as it was just getting big.  It’s been a source of reliable networking, support group, and business generation opportunities since I joined, and the people there have helped me wrestle with how to combine loves of food, travel, and writing, all in one place. Ta-da!

All this to say, the third anniversary is today, and Emilie is putting her products up for 50% off, so now’s a good time to try out either the book or the Tribe.

Cheerio for now, let me know if you have questions about Puttiness after poking around Emilie’s site… Also in store, more food posts and what I did while on vacation in September!

 

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A Letter a Day Keeps the Lonely Away

What is it about a letter?

letters

A letter is, prima fascie, a way to communicate information across distance. An old-fashioned way that we have, for the most part, tossed aside for the faster methods like emailing, phoning, and texting.

And yet, letters remain. When we receive one, we get a jolt of energy, a little hug of happiness that lets us know someone was thinking of us and took the time to tell us so. We don’t usually get that from email. Why is that?

Letters require effort.

  • You have to either keep an inventory of stationery, envelopes, and stamps and keep up with the rampant postage changes, or you make a special trip to purchase them.
  • You need to write your message in your best handwriting.
  • You need to know where to find the nearest blue USPS mailbox, or make a trip to the post office.

And all for something that could be relayed instantly, free of charge, through your own computer. Why do we do it?

A Little Story

When I was traveling westward across the U.S., I made a list of people with their addresses that I wanted to send a letter or postcard to, and I got to most of them. I did the same thing while in Asia, even though it seemed like the postcard-sellers there had all decided to hide from me.

Then when I finally landed in Portland, I wanted to keep writing these letters, but I made myself stop. It felt like a distraction, a way of procrastinating by wanting to send encouragement, positivity, and care to far-flung friends and family, when what I most needed was to give it to myself.

So I stopped writing letters for two weeks.

What did I gain from this?

What did I lose?

Lessons on Self-Denial

It did allow me to focus on tasks that needed attention: apartment-hunting, soul-searching, life-recalibrating. It did this by holding onto that energy that wanted to go out, and redirecting it in, forcing myself to absorb the now, the here, instead of imagining or regretting the there, the then.

This was a good exercise, but I think it’s served its purpose. I learned that frittering away so much energy in those short bursts was taking away from my ability to focus on and enjoy where I am in this moment.

Writing letters is part of “who I am,” but I was letting it become an excuse for dodging that big bullet, the one with my name on it that says Destiny.

You Control Your Own Destiny

When I put things back in perspective, ‘Who I Am’ does need to write letters, especially in my current situation, where I don’t know many people close by, and many dear friends live worlds apart. A letter dispatched connects me to them and makes me feel less lonely. Denying myself the pleasure of this activity was useful for a term but then ended up making me feel isolated.

Like a dieter denying herself any sweets at all, it was unsustainable! So I am back  writing letters, but now aware of my penchant for using this good activity as a shield for not making progress on something bigger and scarier.

 

Have you noticed any habits that are good to start but end up becoming harmful? Are you using something as a shield for not doing something else? Something to ponder… and share with others in the comments!

 

Images via Just Ramblin’ and DeanandAngella

Balance Positive

 

The Good and the Bad

Finding someone to rhapsodize about pottery with may not have been enough of a silver lining to balance out the car repair setback, but listen to the events that followed:

  • A long day of driving to Oklahoma
  • A speeding ticket in Arkansas
  • No wifi at the place I was staying
  • My credit card left at the pizza place where I had dinner

Those were my 2 days after the oil pan incident, summed up.

Yet none of these annoying/exhausting/expensive events broke the bank of positivity that I had stored up from my farewells from DC, or the general happiness with my present situation.

I know, hard to believe, right?? But these things also happened in those 2 days:

  • Meeting an awesome pizza entrepreneur
  • A beautiful sunrise over Edmond, OK
  • Not having to stop in Texas
  • Stopping to see a colleague at his beautiful home in Santa Fe
  • Arriving in the high desert town of Taos with no bad weather

All in all, I conclude that the good is outweighing the bad. The setbacks are not enough to tear down the joys from the small, beautiful things.

How is that possible?

Part of it involves that stored-up positivity, as when you receive the well wishes of friends to warm you in colder days. This bolsters your confidence in your own decisions.

Part of it involves awareness of many things at once, so that the speeding ticket doesn’t dominate my whole impression of Arkansas (well, maybe). You can appreciate the good weather while admitting that the ticket stinks.

And part of it involves perspective— which I’m frankly surprised I’m able to have so soon after these bad-luck events. Long stretches of driving, as I found out on the trip to Nova Scotia, enable you to reflect, process, and uncover your inner workings in some unique ways.

Since I don’t like driving, I’ll have to replace this with a different activity once I become local again. What’s your best suggestion? What gets you into that open-minded space?

Despertador image of open space

 

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