What if instead of “I Will”, your goal/intention/resolution for 2017 was “I Am”?
Stories that Don’t Serve Us
And it is entirely possible to tell ourselves different stories.
These stories we tell ourselves, such as, ‘because I’m boring,’ or ‘because I’m unattractive,’ frame the events in our lives. How to reframe?
Instead of ‘he didn’t call me back because I was boring on our first date,’ why not, ‘he didn’t call me back because he’s busy or didn’t feel a connection. Did I, really, or just want him to call me?’
Instead of ‘she didn’t smile back at me because I’m unattractive,’ why not, ‘she didn’t smile back at me because it’s a scary world, and we’re conditioned to be distrustful nowadays’?
These stories are something we control, but they also have a powerful effect on our moods. So why wouldn’t we shift the story, and give ourselves the benefit of some confidence? (couched in self-awareness, and self-honesty, of course!)
Goals in 2017
For your goals for the year (or resolutions, or intentions; whatever works for you), why don’t you try changing the WILL/WON’T to AM/AM NOT?
I won’t smoke–>I’m not a smoker
I will get in shape–>I am a healthy body ready to get healthier
I won’t judge–>I am open to understanding people outside my experience
See how this makes the task or action more of a piece of your identity? That is a key way to reframe those unhelpful thoughts we have, and those unproductive stories we tell ourselves. It’s like the opposite of negative thinking, where a person gets caught in a cycle of “I’m not good enough,” when really, it’s the circumstances that are not good.
This is how we seize the reins to reframe our year!
I’ve whittled my end-of-year ruminating down to two intentions and a word:
2) Be open to learning from previously dismissed sources, such as astrology
** SUFFICIENCY ** (where I caught my word is in the link)
If you meditate, try meditating on that last one. Tell me what comes up.
More on that word soon. Happy 2017.
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