Christmas time is coming, yes, but Winter Solstice is also almost here: December 21st, when we have the longest night of the year, and the Northern Hemisphere is tilting the most away from the Sun.
The dark of midwinter is a great time to sit quietly and think about things. Not wanting to spend money is also a good motivator for listening to the silence, and mulling over what 2016 has taught me.
People are doing the best they can.
People need to feel heard.
I want to be more open to possibility.
Yak Trax are awesome for walking on ice.
Ha! But they are…
I’ve puzzled over why I seem to have a stream of short relationships, intense but guttering out quickly. I go in cycles of protecting myself against hurt by not allowing myself to be vulnerable, then slide into my natural vulnerable state and get whomped upside the head.
It affects my writing life less than it used to, but it is still a challenge. This winter, I am issuing a two-part counter-challenge to myself: to be open to more things that can tell me about myself, and to let my heartlight shine forth, no matter what others appreciate about it or don’t.
#1 I have always scoffed at astrology. As Brene Brown says, ‘I’d roll my eyes so far back in my head, I’m surprised they didn’t get stuck back there.’ I just got out of a system that has a pat answer for why everything happens; I don’t need to jump into a new one!
But my woo-woo friends in Portland tell me that it’s less of a belief system than a searching out of signs, a listening to intuition, and delving deeper to understand your and my human needs.
Well, that sounds good!
So I looked up my sun sign, moon sign, and ascendant sign. I invited a couple friends to talk to me about how they see astrology, how they use it, how it helps them see better into their own dark corners.
Maybe it will show me a new way.
#2 In addition to the December reading of Brene Brown, I feel drawn to the approach of Tosha Silver. In her book Outrageous Openness, which I borrowed from a friend, she gives lots of fun, satisfying stories to show her approach to life, which is:
“Divine Order says that the perfect solution to any problem is already selected if you allow yourself to be guided;”
“Please show me your Divine Will in this matter and send a clear sign that gives the proper direction. And if for some reason I’m about to head the wrong way, please, please stop me.”
I’m going to give it a try.
Done well, these are all ways to take stock and reflect about your year, and remind yourself what you really want out of life. They all have three basic components: remember the past, evaluate it in relation to how you want your life to be, and form a goal for how to help it get there.
I’ve got two intentions and a Word (from The Soul of Money book). What have you got?
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