The Good and the Bad
Finding someone to rhapsodize about pottery with may not have been enough of a silver lining to balance out the car repair setback, but listen to the events that followed:
- A long day of driving to Oklahoma
- A speeding ticket in Arkansas
- No wifi at the place I was staying
- My credit card left at the pizza place where I had dinner
Those were my 2 days after the oil pan incident, summed up.
Yet none of these annoying/exhausting/expensive events broke the bank of positivity that I had stored up from my farewells from DC, or the general happiness with my present situation.
I know, hard to believe, right?? But these things also happened in those 2 days:
- Meeting an awesome pizza entrepreneur
- A beautiful sunrise over Edmond, OK
- Not having to stop in Texas
- Stopping to see a colleague at his beautiful home in Santa Fe
- Arriving in the high desert town of Taos with no bad weather
All in all, I conclude that the good is outweighing the bad. The setbacks are not enough to tear down the joys from the small, beautiful things.
How is that possible?
Part of it involves that stored-up positivity, as when you receive the well wishes of friends to warm you in colder days. This bolsters your confidence in your own decisions.
Part of it involves awareness of many things at once, so that the speeding ticket doesn’t dominate my whole impression of Arkansas (well, maybe). You can appreciate the good weather while admitting that the ticket stinks.
And part of it involves perspective— which I’m frankly surprised I’m able to have so soon after these bad-luck events. Long stretches of driving, as I found out on the trip to Nova Scotia, enable you to reflect, process, and uncover your inner workings in some unique ways.
Since I don’t like driving, I’ll have to replace this with a different activity once I become local again. What’s your best suggestion? What gets you into that open-minded space?