This series of “When In Doubt” posts will deal specifically with how to get happy when you feel like you’re drowning in more questions than answers. I have frequently been in dips like this, as you can see from many of my posts. Sometimes I work out a problem on the blog here with you, but often it is expressed in activity in another sphere. Here is where I’m showcasing those other activities, and how I deal with uncertainty every day.
How many times have you moved house in the past 5 years? The US Census Bureau says that the average American moves 11.7 times in a lifetime, the majority of those moves being before the age of 44.
I have moved house 4 times in the past 5 years. And I am gearing up for another move in a few weeks! What does this have to do with doubt, you ask? Well, moving has to do with change, and change has an interesting relationship with doubt. Let me explain.
When you’re feeling stuck, and doubtful about your place in the world, the urge to hunker down may come upon you. When things are uncertain, you may thank your lucky stars for your home, where things are just as orderly as you keep them, and from which point you know how to get anywhere you want. But.
Shake it up. Don’t let that tiny temporary comfort stop you from going after what you want. Move, if you need to. And only you can tell if you need to.
I moved last fall for three reasons: to economize (got a roommate to share the rent), to encourage decluttering, and to decalcify in preparation for a different living situation (Living with others means you have to let go of your control issues. In theory.). I knew that I’d grown quite a bit of “scurf” from living on my own for several years, and needed to loosen up in preparation for stepping out of my comfort zone in many ways.
I’m moving again this winter for The Big Plunge, the step that will take me away from my settled existence into the great unknown. I came across this Tweet recently again that crystallizes my understanding of my move:
— Travel Lifestyle (@Travelingstyle) November 11, 2012
The speaker first notices and envies the freedom of the bird, but then acknowledges that he himself has that same freedom, if only he will act on it.
Those are the two takeaways from Part 7:
1) Acknowledge your freedom.
2) Act on it.
That is all.
How have you acted on your own initiative, thrown inhibition to the wind, gloried in the feeling of being a human alive in this age? Share in the comments to encourage others to do the same!